For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile – 1 Peter 3:10

Only God’s Word defines pride. When you learn and know God’s Word, you can tell whether or not you’ve been proud. So, anybody may call you proud, but they have no parameters for judging pride; only the Word of God can, because pride is a thing of the heart.

However, rudeness is not a thing of the heart. You can be good in your heart, humble in your heart, yet be rude, maybe in your answers and comments about others. You may not mean to be rude, and yet your answers are rude. This is one of the reasons for consciously learning the right language as a child of God. Learning the right communication is part of spiritual growth and self-development. Consciously improve in the way you address others.

Imagine what they said of Jesus, “No one ever spoke like this man” (John 7:46). They were turned on by His words; they were inspired and blessed by His communication. It should be the same testimony of you. Get those around you stirred by the words that come out of you: “…Say nothing evil or hurtful” (1 Peter 3:10 MSG).

Words define your life, value, and personality. The character of your words is the character of your personality. Therefore, let your words be gracious at all time; let your communication be edifying. Some people allow bitterness into their hearts which reflects in their communication, and that’s wrong. Whatever the case, never allow bitterness in your heart, nor in your language.

In Ephesians 4:31, the Bible says, “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice.” So, get rid of bitterness, malice, and anger; get rid of hurtful words. Walk in love. Don’t only show love to those who love you; love those whom you think are against you. Let your words and actions be gracious, and seasoned with love—at all times.

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Blessed Father, thank you for your love that’s shed abroad in my heart by the Holy Spirit, which I consciously demonstrate to everyone through my words and actions. Bitterness, hatred, and pride, have no part in me, because I consistently walk in love and in your righteousness, in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Further Study: Matthew 5:44